Really?

[silvercat17]

Continuing from the last post, same trigger warnings (rape comparison being the big one)



I'm a mod on that group, so I warned him.

Me:
I'll remind you that the rules say:

No shaming OP's
No shaming OP's also means do NOT contact the poster of a thread or anyone responding to the thread to send them a rude private message.

And I'm pretty sure that everyone would agree that arguing with how they identify and view things as RUDE

And I got backed up by the group owner.

Him: I apologize

(Laziest apology ever)

Another person comes in saying that not everyone combines sex and BDSM

Jerkass: Correct me if I am wrong but what does wiki say about Bdsm? Nuff said. End argument

He gets objections and follows up with

Jerkass: Prove what is wrong on the wiki. Instead of saying don't trust the wiki back up your arguments with facts. My facts are that to the majority of the population who utilize Bdsm activities it is erotic in nature. Erotic is defined as sexual arousal. If someone wishes to repurpose Bdsm activities as something else that's fine. I support their choices, but for the love of all that is right don't call it Bdsm. Call it Bdsm like activities for "insert whatever reason you are doing it". But dont get offended if someone waves their desire to get a sub or Domme out of omegle or chastises someone for non mainstream viewpoints.

Secondly, I am apologizing still to her. It doesn't make how I feel about other peoples comments any different.

(I don't consider that anything near a real apology)

The group owner comments on her being offended at him trying to define what BDSM is for everyone, and provides more criticisms of citing Wikipedia.

Me to him: You're an misogynistic asshole who apparently doesn't see other people's experiences as real and I see no reason to talk to you or read any of your comments, except in regards to modding. Fuck off.

And then he gets a second warning from the group owner.

Now I've had to unfriend and block someone else. I've been posting status updates on Fetlife about it.

I posted: So the asshole who was trying to tell me the BDSM is inherently sexual is doubling down, by citing Wikipedia. Yeah... that'll work.

Ex-friend: Oh no, there's someone WRONG on the internet!

Me: There's wrong, and then there's comparing asexuals doing BDSM to a woman having an orgasm from being raped. The threads are in Daily Snark and Report. The guy is a disgusting piece of shit.

Ex-friend: Sure

And then I blocked her, as well as unfriending her on Facebook and Twitter.

Me: I'm not okay with people being dismissive of me (or anyone else) being upset, especially when I'm upset because someone is telling me that my own experiences aren't true.

I'm not overreacting, right?

What's really upsetting me is that she's trans, so she should be more sympathetic to people auditing someone's experiences, right? But no, minority status does not guarantee empathy. *sigh*

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[silveradept]

Oh, Great Maker, what an asshole he was. And the lack of sympathy from the friend wasn't any better. They could have been trying to joke, but it shouldn't have been continued after the first response.